Friday, March 2, 2018

Foraging

I save almost every scrap of leftovers at restaurants. If there are 3 french fries left on my plate, I take them home. Cut ‘em up and fry them again with a few onions and you get a fantastic "home fries" brunch omelette. Those little packets of parmesan that come with your take-out pizza?  They make an excellent topping for bruschetta or addition to oil & vinegar salad dressing. 

What started out as saving food to not be wasteful has become an opportunity to embellish home cooking with things that I would never have the patience to cook myself or that are sold in quantities too large for my needs. I would never buy a spice jar full of hot red pepper flakes. But those little packets from the pizza place are perfect for perking up a soup. 

Presentation is everything. What looks dull in a familiar packet, looks amazing in pretty little dishes with a garnish. My favorite are those little square packets of jam you get at diners. How else can I get Concord Grape jelly, Apricot jam and Orange marmalade next to my weekend scones without filling the door of my refrigerator with whole jars of jam that will last months? 

I think we can blame my father for this habit. Unable to consume large portions and enjoying a nosh every hour, Dad took home restaurant leftovers back in the day when a doggy bag was one plastic bag that said Fido on it with scraps from everyone’s plate dumped into it. He always kept a couple of napkins and sandwich baggies in his pocket, harvested the dry food, and enjoyed the rest of his meal leisurely over the next few hours. 

We are grazers. I also enjoy walking along, resting on a bench and fishing a leftover roll or cookie out of my pocket. When the kids were little, I always had snacks to help them get through the day. Now it’s tidbits for me and for cooking. 

Greg may have been a bit horrified at first, but now he’s a convert. He happily pushes his plate towards mine and asks, “Want to take my parsley and pickle? Here’s a clean napkin.”   


Do you know what you can do with parsley????

Saturday, January 27, 2018

Queen Bee

I have worked for many years as an executive assistant, usually for a CFO or Vice President. There was always an executive assistant who ranked higher than me. She supported the CEO or President of the company. No matter where I worked, this lady was always extremely self confident and bossy. Her skills were no better than the rest of us admins, but she had power. She is the Queen Bee.

Did the Queen Bee become bitchy and arrogant after she got the job?  Or did she get the job because she had a demeanor that commands respect?  

I think I know the answer because I am now the Queen Bee. 

I became a CEO’s assistant a year ago. Thanks to many years in great companies in various roles, plus lots of lessons in leadership, I have acquired a lot of good skills and poise and I definitely came into my new job with self confidence. I work very independently, I make decisions all day acting on behalf of a very successful person and I seem to get it right. 

As part of my role, I am often asked to be the messenger and deliver some communication that the other party doesn’t necessarily want to hear. Sometimes I see a process that could stand improvement and I take the initiative to make changes. I have been fortunate that my boss has empowered me. 

My first attempt is to get people to “want to” not “have to”. Sometimes I’m literally delivering a message and it’s all “have to”. I’ve learned that if you sound meek, no one listens. Somewhere between impatience and disappointment in human nature, I think I started to sound bitchy lately. And I’m sorry to say, it’s much more effective!  

Queen Bee is growing on me.

Do I want that to continue?  




Friday, January 19, 2018

Deep Pockets Chapter 2

I bolstered my strength with a nutritious breakfast and braced myself for providing another free therapy session at my dental appointment this week. My hygienist did not disappoint. Just after I settled into my comfy chair in a zero-gravity position, she said, “So, where did I leave off with what’s going on with my mother? Oh…I saw you in July. I had just moved her from Alaska to Assisted Living here near me. Well after that, I had to move my mother to Memory Care in Emeryville. Here’s what happened….”

I was hoping there would not be a Chapter 2, but here we are.

I may have been distracted by her story or my mind wandered but I didn’t follow her instructions to spit or slurp or whatever I was supposed to do with the little suction tube so I dribbled saliva and gunk down the side of my neck on my cashmere sweater. “Oopsie! Let's wipe that up!” 

For the 114th time I got lessons on how to brush better. (yes, I'm counting)

For the 114th time I got instructed how to remove plaque. Sometimes I wonder if this is really within our control. Or is it like trying not to get your shoes dirty? You'll never succeed, right?

I was reminded to schedule an appointment to replace a crown.

“Does the scraping noise bother you?”

My only opportunity for self expression was when the hygienist asked me why I don’t want her to polish or floss and I could actually speak. 


“So I can get out of here faster.”  

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Home Alone

Does that sound like an adventure movie about parents who leave a mischievous kid at home?

Sometimes it’s just the lady of the house. 

What does she do?  First, she cleans like a fiend. Off come the work clothes, on with the leggings and tee shirt and diving into a long-awaited project. All gadgets and solutions are in use: vacuum cleaner, windex, dust cloth, washing machine, dryer, masking tape, goo-gone. Garbage is carted out. Piles go away. A mini-reorg happens. Like an episode of Bewitched, all is perfectly innocently in place when the husband gets home. 

After the cleaning, the chef gets to work. A trip out to the pots that make up my kitchen garden to snip some fresh watercress and dill. These are the pots of my failed summer vegetables; I’m doing much better growing lettuce, spinach and herbs in the winter. [If you’re not in California, I’m sorry, I don’t mean to make you jealous that we can actually grow a salad between fires and mudslides.]

Before getting on with my dinner - a side note on watercress:  I don’t know anyone who grows it but when you google it, it comes up as a micro-green, a super-food with instructions on how easy it is to grow in a jar on your windowsill. I’ve always loved watercress. My grandmother soaked it in a lemon juice dressing and served it as is. Watercress sandwiches?!  The British are on to something, I tell you! Watercress will be the new basil. One of these days, it will be in little pots at Trader Joe’s for $3.99. Just remember, you heard it first HERE.

Dinner:  Fresh tomatoes with watercress; fresh dill in a lemon sauce (lemons from coworker’s tree) on my vegetable stew, topped dried tomatoes from my summer garden. I’m able to add something homegrown to almost every meal these days. 

And then she writes a blog post. 


Satisfaction guaranteed.

Sunday, December 31, 2017

I'm So Glad!

My beloved banjo teacher Charlie Tagawa always broke into a big grin and said, “I’m so glad!” whenever I told him I mastered a chord progression or other good news. 

It feels like there has not been much good news this year. I commented that I don’t feel like getting out of bed anymore and several people immediately furrowed their brow and asked “Do you need to see someone?” No. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Just because I don’t feel like leaving the warm blankets and soft pillows and my mountain of bedside electronics, doesn't mean I can’t or won’t get out of bed. I’m more of a  stiff-upper-lip soldier-on kinda gal. But every bit of bad news really makes you think about the world, your immediate circle, and your own place in all of it.

I’m so glad….that Greg and I had a great time visiting my mother in New York during the holiday season. We saw the radio show Prairie Home Companion “Town Hall” live with Chris Thile, the very talented mandolin player. One of the acts was the most famous banjo player Bela Fleck who I’ve always wanted to see and yes, they did a spectacular duet with lightening fingers. Such talent!  

I’m so glad….that we enjoyed dinner at Eataly and lunch at the Porter House, not to mention Gray’s Papaya and the Lexington Candy Shop which is the oldest luncheonette in Manhattan. I played the whistle at an Irish session at the William Barnacle Tavern. They have a very welcoming small group of ladies in this tiny old speakeasy. I think I’m becoming a regular there when I’m in NY. 

I’m so glad….that I got my suitcase back after my missed connection coming back from New York. Santa Rosa is such a small airport that I had to wait around outside United’s empty little mobile office for half an hour for their staff to come back from the tarmac where they were pushing a plane for take-off. 

I’m so glad….that all my plants are doing really well! They were lovingly looked after with just the right amount of neglect both at home and at the office while I traveled. 

I’m so glad….that I had time to spend with friends and family.  Hours of talking to my mother. Days wandering NYC with Greg. Driving to Oakland to finally see Shani and Lex. And catching up with Liane who was home with the sniffles. 

I’m so glad that…I had time to catch up with my BFFs. All are doing very well. 

I’m so glad that …the 2 impatient drivers who nearly mowed me down this week missed!

Now it’s time to wrap up 2017 and get ready for 2018. If you’re Jewish, you just did that at Rosh Hashanah in September. If you’ve been touched by wildfires, you’ve thought about what really matters and if you want to make any changes to live a life of no regrets. This is the third time in 3 months that I'm taking stock and making new resolutions! I'll do it but then I want a break for a few months. You gotta give me time to actually go do the resolutions!


I’m so glad….that you are in my life and that we’ve all made it to 2018 in reasonably good shape.  Now clink those glasses!  May 2018 be a good year for all!

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Microwave Thanksgiving

If the title leads you to imagine poking holes in cellophane to get to a frozen dinner with turkey, mashed potatoes and shriveled peas, you are about to be disappointed. 

This year, we followed our tummies to what we really wanted:  fondue and chocolate cake. We took the easy way:  Trader Joe’s little buckets of fondue that you zap for 5 minutes and voila, you are in heaven. They have two different kinds now. We got both. There is no clean-up. You throw away the paper bucket in the recycle bin. 

For dessert we are making 5 minute chocolate cake in a mug. This simple recipe has you make batter from scratch in a mug and zap it for 5 minutes. It’s a miracle!  Warm rich fresh chocolate cake!  We put creme fraiche on top.  

Lest you think our microwave dinner the pathetic height of laziness, let me mention that a few other things happened in our kitchen today just for fun. 
  •   Liane has baked a beautiful pecan pie from scratch.
  •   Marian made lentils, sautéed eggplant and made a batch of humus from scratch. 
  •   Marian harvested home-grown chard and kohlrabi from the garden to prep and   bring to a dinner party on Saturday. 


Happy Thanksgiving!  Ignore convention!  
May you enjoy whatever gastronomic delights are on your table. 

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Different Worlds: Catwalks, Wildfires, and Pani Puri

One minute you’re strutting down a catwalk, the next, it’s all gone up in flames. Feeling blue?  Drive an hour away and eat pani puri. 

Wait! I can explain everything!

On Friday October 6 I had the opportunity to participate in an event called Catwalk for a Cure. My company was a sponsor and there was a fundraiser lunch and a fashion show. Local companies sent employees to be the models. The event was set up in a big tent next to the Luther Burbank Center for the Arts - our local big beautiful concert venue. 

As a model, I had gone to a boutique to get fitted for an outfit. The style was boho. I pictured myself in slim pants and a cool tunic. Instead I somehow ended up in a frilly black dress with a long vest over it and too many accessories. The worst part was the hat. The stylist insisted we all wear a big hat with a big feather.  There is a reason you’ve never seen me in a big hat. The outfit aged me 10 years and I looked like an eccentric old lady.

Despite the hours of waiting around and the heat, it was fun. I got to know coworkers I’ve never met in person and enjoyed seeing the other models. There were cancer survivors and great stories. And it really was a bit thrilling to strut down a real runway with energetic music and a cheering crowd. 

Three days later it was gone - it had all burned down. 

We had gone to bed on a windy Sunday night and woke up the next morning to the alarming news that the flames had swooped down a few miles from us and hundreds of people had evacuated during the night as many homes and businesses burned down.

On Monday Oct. 9 the fires were raging out of control and there weren’t enough firefighters to help. 

The way that we got information is a marvel in itself. In an age of many so much communication and so many devices, we were really confused and not sure how to get information. 

Greg, Liane and I learned of the fires Monday morning because we had received texts and emails asking if we were OK. Some were locals who woke up earlier than we did but most were from people thousands of miles away who were in later time zones and were following the news already. 

Most of our morning was figuring out how to get very current and reliable news about our area. How would we know if and when to evacuate? You listen to local radio and it’s about another area or an update on what’s burned down. You look at fire maps online and you don’t know how current they are. You google “Sonoma County fire” and the first hits are from previous years or you can’t tell the date. 

We were all in a state of high alert the entire week. The fire came to Windsor and we could see it burning on the top of the ridge about 2 miles from us. The wind was blowing away from our direction so we were concerned but knew that the chances of the wind changing direction were small. We packed the car with the the most important practical and sentimental things and a few days of clothing and then we all drove to work because it was safer at our offices. 

We drove on the 101 freeway with burning logs along the side of the road, passing areas that were completely burned down. You all saw this in the news. 

The air was choking. We stayed indoors with the windows closed, darted to the car and kept the windows closed. We had special masks. 

The roads were empty. The sky was a strange color. 
Most businesses were closed most of the week. It was eerie. 

The week was spent tracking coworkers and friends - who lost their home, who had evacuated.

By Saturday, the next weekend, we were tired and emotionally very drained. Greg had an event in San Francisco and I was joining him for the event dinner at the Fairmont Hotel. We left home at 7:30 in the morning. The fires were now east of us - past Napa - and the sky was gray in the distance. As we drove towards the city, the sky got bluer and bluer and the air was clear. We dropped off Greg at his event and I had a few hours to roam San Francisco.

Everything was normal. It was a perfect day. Sunny and 70. Tourists. Shoppers. Beautiful stores open. Cafes. Ice cream. The cable cars clanging. My head was swimming and I was almost dizzy. 

I found myself in front of an Indian restaurant. I remembered a well written article in the New York Times just before the fire about a dish called Pani Puri. The article had made me extremely curious and I was dying to try it.  And yes, they had it, in this restaurant!  They’re little crispy round things filled with chick peas and potatoes and you pour tamarind sauce over them. 

Eating pani puri in San Francisco is another world that can make you completely forget all the horrible mess just one hour away. 

Are you OK?  That’s the common greeting here now. And the answer is the story you tell.   

Are things back to normal?  That’s the question we are asked by those far away. 

There is a new normal. 

There are large areas of devastation. 

Two co-workers next to me lost their homes, we follow their progress as they look for housing, deal with FEMA, and decide how much to contribute to the GoFundMe pages. Every day we meet new people who lost their homes - in line at the grocery store, the delivery person. At every regular activity we attend we track those in our group who are out of the area because they have no place to live or we welcome back those who lost their home, stayed with relatives an hour away, and now they found a place to stay.

Every lamppost and fence has thank-you messages to first responders. Every store has free or discounted things for those who lost homes. There are opportunities to donate everywhere. 


I know that just about everyone has experienced a disaster at some time where they live. One day you're enjoying a fun event, the next day there is a terrible event, you cope and process, then you change location and you can experience the pre-disaster routine life again. But your world has changed, even when you come through it personally unharmed.